Filling Out Your eHarmony Profile

You should be mindful that when you are on the eHarmony website, your session may timeout if you stay on one page too long.  When you are filling out your profile, you may be tempted to try to get the wording just right before saving it.  If you do that, you may risk timing out and losing any work you did not save.  When you are working on your profile, make sure to save your work from time to time.

Thoughtfully Answer All Of The Questions

When you are filling out your profile, thoughtfully answer all of the questions.  Incomplete profiles are a sign that you are not a member or not serious about finding someone.  You may also want to consider changes to your profile from time to time.  Are you getting closed out more often than you expected?  Look at your profile to see if there is something that is putting your matches off.
If one of your matches misinterpreted something in your profile, check to see if you can make it a bit clearer.  Your eHarmony experience may also refine your thoughts about the man you are looking for.  You may want to update your profile to reflect that.

Spelling Counts

In eHarmony, sadly spelling counts.  If your profile has a number of spelling errors you can come off as sloppy or uneducated.  If you are not sure about the spelling of a specific word, you can use the website www.dictionary.com for help.  You might also ask a friend to proofread your profile for errors in spelling or grammar.

Be Honest And Straightforward

When you are filling out the eHarmony questionnaire, filling out your profile or communicating with a match, it can be tempting to be less than candid.  Throughout your eHarmony experience I would urge you to be as open and honest as possible.  If you are 6’ 2” don’t say that you are 5’2”.  If you are 42, don’t say you are 32.  The most wonderful thing in the world is to be loved for who you are.  The greatest blessing is for someone to know your every fault and love you all the more.  We are all flawed human beings, no one is perfect.  Look for a man that will love you for who you are.  The best way to find him is to be completely honest throughout your eHarmony experience.

Mention Physical Activity

If you are physically active, be sure to mention the activities that you enjoy in your eHarmony profile.  If you haven’t been getting out quite as much as you would like, you might mention activities that you would like to share with your future partner.

Non-Smoker

If you are a non-smoker, be sure to mention that at the end of your profile.  It is a good selling point for other non-smokers.

Children

Already having children presents an additional challenge to a new relationship.  Most women who have children give some hint of that in their eHarmony profile.  If you do not have any children, you might want to mention that at the end of your profile.  That could be a nice selling point for a man that hopes to have children of his own someday.

If You Are A Very Busy Woman

If you are always on the go and you will not always be timely in responding to your eHarmony matches, ask for patience from your matches in your profile.  You may want to use something like this:

I try to respond to all my eHarmony matches in a timely manner, but occasionally I am away from my computer for a few days.  If I don’t get back to you right way, I hope my warm smile will encourage you to be a little patient with me.   I just might be the woman you are looking for…


I’m A Catch

Do you have a lot going for you?  Do you have a lot to offer a man?  Mention that in your profile with an invitation to communicate.  Here is an example:

I am a non-smoker, I have never been married and I don’t have any children.  I'm a great catch.  Let's talk/write.


Post Pictures In eHarmony

eHarmony allows you the flexibility to decide when you are going to share your picture with an eHarmony match.  Regardless of when you decide to share your pictures, have the pictures already posted on eHarmony.  Profiles without pictures are often assumed to be non-members.  If you don’t have any pictures posted, you should expect a significant number of your matches will immediately close out the match.  You can try to minimize that by mentioning why you haven’t posted a picture in your profile.

Select Your Pictures Thoughtfully

When you sign-up with eHarmony you should select a few nice pictures of yourself to post with your profile.  You should not underestimate the importance and impact your pictures will have on your eHarmony success.  If you don’t have any nice pictures, have a friend take some pictures of you.  You may ask for advice from male friends on which pictures to post.  I would suggest:

  • A fun, casual picture, the everyday you (message: I am fun and approachable)
  • A nicer picture possibly from a special occasion (message: I am a beautiful woman that you will be proud to be seen with)
  • A picture from an outdoor activity (message: I am fit, active and I enjoy the outdoors)
  • At least one picture that gives a sense of your figure (message: I take good care of myself or I am a work in progress).
  • At least one close up picture of your head and shoulders.  You should set this picture as your primary picture.

I would not suggest:

  • Using any pictures that do not accurately show what you look like today.  Pictures of you 15 years ago or 30 pounds ago will not help you find love.  Any eHarmony matches that you may meet will feel deceived and that will immediately destroy any chance for a relationship.
  • Using any pictures from your webcam.  If you don’t have access to a digital camera, use a film camera.  The print photos can be scanned into your computer or you can mail them to eHarmony.
  • Using any fussy or dark pictures that make it hard to see you.
  • Using any very close up, head only pictures.
  • A picture of you with your very attractive female friend (You should be the star in your pictures).
  • A picture of you with another guy (Even if he is your brother, it is not a good idea.  You want your potential matches to imagine what they would look like next to you.).
  • A picture of you with another person that has been cut out of the picture (You will leave your matches wondering who else was in the picture.  That is a distraction that takes the focus off of you.).
  • A picture with children that is not explained (That will create confusion…  Does she have children?  Are they a friend’s children?  Is she a Sunday school teacher?).