eHarmony - Before You Join
Dating Is A Numbers Game
The more women you have contact with, the better your chances are in making a good choice for a mate. The
more women you meet the more you can refine what you are looking for in a wife. You may date a beautiful woman,
but find that she is not that pleasant of a person. You might learn from that experience that while looks may
be important, a pleasant personality is critical. The more you date, the more you learn and the more likely
you are going to appreciate the right woman when you meet her.
It Is All About Marketing
Dating is all about marketing. You have a wonderful product to sell, a lifetime of love with you. You canít
sell a product that no one knows is available. You have to let people know that you are out there and what you
have to offer. You need exposure. You need to get your face out there and you need to be a little immodest.
What is great about you? What are your best features? What is attractive about you? Joining eHarmony is a great
way to market yourself to a wide range of women that you probably would never meet otherwise.
eHarmony Is A Time Investment
As wonderful as eHarmony is, if you take it seriously, it can be a significant time commitment. You could
be e-mailing and talking on the phone for a while before you ever meet a woman face to face. You will invest
time in a woman that ends up not being right for you. From time to time, you will be left waiting for a response
from a match that never comes. At other times, eHarmony may not be sending you many matches that you find interesting.
Not every match is going to work out like you may hope, but invest your time and energy in the process. Your
reward just might be a wonderful woman that you can share your life with.
Be Ready For Some Rejection
If you join eHarmony, you should be ready for some disappointments and rejection. You pay eHarmony to suggest
potential matches and help facilitate communication. Not every match is going to be the woman of your dreams.
Not every match is going to find you to be the man of her dreams. Over time, you may be matched with 100 women.
You may reject 40% of them, 40% may reject you and you may have some level of communication with the other 20%.
In the end, all of them will fail with hopefully one exception. In the end you hope to find an attractive woman
that will love you for who you are, enjoy your company and miss you when you are away. It only takes one. If
you do find that woman, it is likely going to be after a significant amount of time sorting through your matches,
time spent answering questions, some phone calls, some bad dates and some disappointments.
Be The Man She Is Looking For
Imagine for a moment the woman you hope to find at eHarmony. What would she be like? Now here is the really important question, are you a man that would attract the woman you have imagined? If you are 200 lbs. overweight, you are unlikely to attract a woman that looks like Jennifer Aniston. To be realistic, you either need to exercise and loose weight or give a heavier woman a chance. If you stay out late every night going to clubs, you are not in the best place to attract a nice stable family-oriented woman. To be realistic, you probably should be spending more time in churches than clubs or be willing to open your heart to a woman that enjoys the nightlife.
If you truly want to find love, I think you have three options:
- You already are the man that can attract the woman of your dreams. You just have to find her.
- You will love and accept the women that are attracted to you as you are now.
- You will make the changes necessary to become the man that will attract the woman you want. Then you have to find her.
If option 1 or 2 apply to you, eHarmony may be a place to expand your search for loving companion. If option 3 applies to you, I think joining eHarmony now would be a waste of time and money. You will reject women that are attracted to you now and the women that you are attracted to will likely reject you. I would suggest that you not join eHarmony until you have made the changes in your life that will be attractive to the woman of your dreams.
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