Background
I wrote this love letter to my sweetheart early in our relationship. The "Dear Mr. Mahar" email refers to a "cool your jets" email that I received from her. She was cautious. She sent me a email saying that she hoped we could be friends if we didn't work out as a romantic couple. I was a bit more optimistic. We had met on eHarmony and we were planning to meet in person after three months... we didn't last three weeks (smile).

Tammy,

Thanks for the phone call. I loved hearing from you. You're great. I like you more every time we talk... You have been warned!! (smile)

You asked in the "Dear Mr. Mahar" e-mail what the chances are that you are the girl of my dreams. Truthfully, I think the chances are pretty good. That is why I am still here. Is it a certainty? Absolutely not, but at this point, I haven't seen (pun intended) anything that tells me you are not The One. I am quite taken with you. I am fully aware that someday you may decide to shoot me down in a blaze of glory. I understand that. I know you may develop a romantic interest in some else that requires ending the romantic possibilities with me. I accept that. I also know that it is possible that I may decide you are not quite the person that I am looking for. If that were to happen, that would be very, very difficult for me to do. I understand the risks and rewards of going forward may be huge. I am far more worried about losing out because I didn't open myself up to you than being hurt because I did. I have made my decision, I am willing to take my chances.

In terms of where we are three months from now. I guess a lot will depend on what happens when we meet. I am expecting to want to give you a BIG HUGE long hug, in friendship, if nothing else. I really don't feel any concerns in terms of being disappointed in your looks. I think you have had an opportunity to see around eight pictures of me. My understanding so far, is that you have liked what you have seen. I don't see conversation being a problem since we seem to do fine on the phone, without the visual cues and body language of being face to face. I know we are both interested in giving and receiving physical affection, I believe that would similarly flow to warmth in intimacy if, someday in the future, we were ever to reach that level. I think both of us have shown an interest in being flexible towards the interests of the other. I would expect that I would be bringing you flowers and writing you letters, notes and e-mails. I anticipate three or four months from now we will be very close. I am not seeing the hitch...

Should we not make it as a romantic couple, who knows what the possibilities may be as friends. I can't say. My hope would be that we could be friends, but there is a possibility hurt feelings and wounded hearts would not allow for a close friendship.

Both romantically and as friends, there are no guarantees in life.

I hope I have addressed your concerns. If not, maybe we could discuss this further.

With fond thoughts,

Tim